Is it Time to Walk Away from Your Business? 3 Pieces of Advice

tEREUy1vSfuSu8LzTop3_IMG_2538“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do.” – Ella Fitzgerald

Back when I was in corporate I would get what I called the “Sunday night blues.” As the day would go on, I’d have more and more anxiety.

It didn’t matter how much fun I’d had, or how relaxing the day had been, by 7:00 pm my stomach would be in knots. Just the thought of returning to a job I hated on Monday morning was enough to ruin half my weekend.

Unfortunately, as a business owners you might be going through similar things. But instead of getting the blues at the end of the weekend, you might get the dreaded 3:00 am blues.

It happens when you wake up in the middle of the night gripped by fear. All the emotions you’ve been keeping locked down during the day start flooding in.

When you’re vulnerable and half-awake, suddenly all you can think about is what’s not in your bank account. Or how your latest product launch fizzled. Or how exhausting it is to work night and day on a dream of business that’s become a total nightmare.

The good thing is the 3:00 am blues usually passes. And when it’s time to go out in the world you pull yourself together, smile and pretend nothing’s wrong.

You keep hustling and hope that something breaks before you completely break down.

What happens if you can’t make it work? What happens if you risk everything to pursue this dream and you end up losing it all?

Not sure if it’s time to stay or go? Close your business, shut the doors and start looking for a JOB?

Before you decide, here are three things to try:

1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Business Owners

Give yourself a break. Even if everyone else seems to be happy and successful with no problems, that’s far from the truth. There are no overnight successes.

No matter what their PR says, everyone has had to go through rough places in their business. Sleepless nights, self-doubt and soul-numbing fear. If that’s what you’re going through, you’re not alone.

2. Get Back to Basics

Why did you want to go into business in the first place? Have you forgotten your “why?” Did you get sidetracked from your original idea?

It’s okay to change direction if you’re not where you want to be. Stop and take stock of your situation.

3. What Action Can You Take Right Now?

Instead of getting stuck in an endless loop of thinking without action, take a step right now. What is the best action you can take at this time?

When you’re confused and frustrated, it’s easy to lose the ability to make any decision.

So you either jump from thing to thing looking for the magic pill that will make everything better, or throw up your hands and give up entirely.

If you’re almost at the point of no return, and want support (and tips to help you decide if this is the right time to walk away) click here: http://eepurl.com/bnDMQ1 to get access to my free ebook: “Ready to Break Up with Your Business? Three Things to Do Before You Call it Quits!”

Here’s some feedback from an entrepreneur who gave the ebook a test drive: “I can’t tell you how much clarity this booklet gave me, when you are at a crossroads with your business, you need someone to talk too, an impartial party and have a checklist of how to approach your problem, and this booklet nails it!” – Kerry H.

It could be time for a fresh start. Or maybe you only need a fresh perspective. Now is the time to find out.

Copyright © 2015 Deborah A. Bailey

The Purpose Driven Marketing Summit

A couple of weeks ago I was interviewing an author on the Women Entrepreneurs Radio podcast and we were discussing the challenges of writing and publishing. One thing we both could agree on was how publishing your book is only the beginning. Marketing is the real challenge.

Whether you’re an author, or a coach looking to get the word out about a launch, or a small business owner, you know how important it is to connect with your ideal client/customer. Without them, you don’t have a business.

But with all the conflicting information on how to accomplish that, what should you do first?

That’s why I was excited to participate in this free audio series. Designed specifically for coaches, authors, speakers and consultants, this series covers four main topic areas: marketing, products, mindset and purpose.

16 speakers (including yours truly) will be sharing their expertise and some free gifts as a thank you for registering.

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Click on the link below to get started and get access to proven strategies and gifts to grow your business & make a bigger impact!

http://purposedrivenmarketingsummit.com

Book Review: The Art of Work by Jeff Goins

The Art of WorkThe Art of Work by Jeff Goins

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Those looking for the work they were meant to do, will find a meaningful guide in The Art of Work. Not the usual book about how to follow your dream, author Jeff Goins shows that your calling isn’t a destination, but steps on a life-long journey. Giving examples of others who have found their calling in various ways, he shows the reader that success is rarely if ever a straight line. And the definition of success can vary depending on the person. Being on your path and living your purpose may include a red carpet and all the external trappings of success, or it may be a much simpler life outside of the spotlight. It all depends on the person.

The book includes sections which divide the chapters into Preparation, Action and Completion, and detail the journey through answering the call, becoming the apprentice, practice, mastery and ultimately legacy. In the introduction, Goins makes clear that he’s not referring to finding your dream job, but finding your vocation–which is your calling. It’s not just about showing up at a job and going through the motions, but stepping into the work you were meant to do. The thing that fits you, fills your dreams and your desires.

As the old way of working disappears, taking with it things like job security and pensions, a new way of looking at the work you were born to do has emerged. As Goins observes, with longer lifespans, it’s no longer a matter of your work life ending at retirement. A calling isn’t about punching a clock, it’s how you express yourself in the world.

Sometimes you know what you’re called to do, or you may discover it after a set-back, a loss, or a course correction. Based on what Goins calls, an ancient path followed by master craftsmen and artisans, it’s not meant to be a blueprint that everyone must follow exactly. Instead he urges the reader to be open to what shows up, and be mindful of how you respond to it. You may be led to places you never expected, and discover that all along you were being led where you were supposed to be.

He’s also included an Appendix with items such as, “Your First Steps Down the Path,” “Seven Signs You’ve Found Your Calling,” and “Next Steps.” No matter your age or stage of life, you’ll find something here to guide and support you along your life’s journey.

Author Q&A: “How Will You Create Positive Change” by Leah Oviedo

Title: “How Will You Create Positive Change”, book one in a series.

About the Author: Leah Oviedo is an author of 6 books, self-defense instructor, fundraiser, long time volunteer and community activist with a passion for equality, community involvement and access to information. She founded the Change is Up To You Project in 2012 to promote and support those who are being the change they want to see. Her volunteer career includes environmental and social issues for several organizations.

About the Book:

This is the first book in a series that encourages people to solve problems and create sustainable solutions in their communities. Sixteen amazing people from around the world have shared successful stories of how they created positive change in their communities.

Each interview includes a blueprint for how they took action, what obstacles they overcame, and advice on how everyone can be an active participant in creating a better world. These agents of change are championing for human rights, education, health, environmental sustainability, ending violence, eradicating poverty, mentoring youth, improving their communities, and inventing products that create a better world. They are different genders, skin colors and ages who live in different countries and have different beliefs. What they share in common is taking action.

Leah is stopping by the blog today to talk about her book and share an excerpt!

Deborah Bailey: Welcome to the Secrets of Success blog, Leah! What inspired you to come up with the idea for your book?

Leah Oviedo: Glad to be here! As an avid volunteer for various organizations over the past 15 years I wanted to highlight the amazing work that is being done across the globe. I was tired of reading so much negativity in magazines and online and noticing how major media outlets focus on bad news much more than good. Prior to creating the idea I was working on personal development and practicing ‘being the change I want to see’. So this book series gives free promotion for all who participate

Deborah: Were there any challenges in writing this book?

Leah: Since all the books in this series contain interviews with people from around the globe and are all done via e-mail, it’s challenging to gather the interviews. For those who procrastinate or forget I may have to follow up 3 or 4 times before they actually send it to me. In this first book, one person who I really wanted to include and who expressed interest actually contacted me the day I published the book so her interview was not included.

Deborah: So many people out there want to write a book. Any tips to share with someone who wants to be published?

Leah: I self-published all six of my books so the most important advice if you choose that route is to hire a talented, experienced editor and go for it! There are various publishing platforms to use. I chose Amazon because of the high profit margin, the ease of self-publishing and the many tools they offer can help your book get noticed. There is a lot of advice to market your book online and most of it offers very little return for the tie and work invested.. You will sell the most books by networking throughout your community, speaking engagements and simply sharing that you wrote a book without being pushy. Research marketing ideas that work with your personality and preferences. It took me a while to be any good at public speaking, but I overcame my doubts, prepared ahead of time and had fun.

Deborah: Do you have a favorite writing environment?

Leah: Quiet places! Give me a desk and comfortable chair and I can write for hours. However I’m also inspired when I’m outside walking in nature or downtown people watching. Unexpected inspiration can happen anywhere so I always carry a pen and notebook with me to jot down notes and ideas.

Deborah: Who do you think will benefit most from reading your book?

Leah: Those who have a passion for learning about the world, who are interested in social issues, and want to get involved in their community will be inspired. Also, those who volunteer or are starting a nonprofit will learn valuable advice and find resources to help them succeed. It makes a great gift for your family member or friend who volunteers.
 

Deborah: That’s terrific. Can you share an excerpt?

Leah: Sure, Deb. Here it is:

“The role models in this book are not famous and don’t have millions of dollars. They are not politicians or CEOs of large corporations. The media doesn’t report their every move in the news, yet they are creating change that affects you, me, and billions of people. They are human rights activists, environmentalists, health activists, youth mentors, educators, innovators, and community leaders. They are different genders, ages, and skin colors. They live in different countries and have different beliefs. What they share in common is taking action to solve a problem. They consciously chose to make our world happier, healthier, safer, and accepting of others. They were not simply handed an opportunity, but instead saw problems and created solutions.

At the end of the book is information to help you take that first step and some resources to help you succeed.

My hope is this inspires you to be a force of change for good. Always remember that you are capable. Follow your passion to people and places who can guide you on your path. It has been said many times that you must actively be the change you want to see(in your personal life, community, and the world) for that change to happen. Wishing for and hoping will not make change. Learn from these amazing people. Take that first step and see what you can create.

Change is up to you.”

Deborah: What a great message. Please share where readers can your book and where they can find out more about you.

Leah: the Paperback is available on, http://www.bookemon.com/book-profile/how-will-you-create-positive-change/358925 and the E-book is available on,

http://www.amazon.com/Leah-Oviedo/e/B007LMUEJ2/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1

Here are my website and social media links: website and blog: http://changeisup2u.wordpress.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/changeisup2u

Personal website: http://leahis.com

Just want to add that in addition to marketing my own books, I love to support other authors, especially those who supported me when I started. One way I do this is a monthly reading challenge on Facebook.

Each month I select a handful of books to feature from authors I know and books I’ve read. I invite hundreds of my friends and challenge them to read new books. This both encourages readers to discover books by talented authors and introduces those authors to a larger audience.

Check out the April Readathon at: https://m.facebook.com/events/801527406594941/?ref=ts&fref=ts&__nodl

Book Review: “The Art of War for Small Business” by Becky Sheetz-Runkle

The Art of War for Small Business: Defeat the Competition and Dominate the Market with the Masterful Strategies of Sun TzuThe Art of War for Small Business: Defeat the Competition and Dominate the Market with the Masterful Strategies of Sun Tzu by Becky Sheetz-Runkle

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

There are a lot of advantages to running a small business over a larger one, though often small business owners may feel overwhelmed when they try to keep up with the big players. The Art of War for Small Business by Becky Sheetz-Runkle, uses “The Art of War” by Sun Tzu as its inspiration.

Sheetz-Runkle is experienced in martial arts and in business leadership, and she lends her expertise to this guide for the small business owner.

Included in her book are 12 lessons, which include directives on how to understand your market, how to understand your competition, how to build alliances and how to maintain your focus.

She’s also added examples of various successful businesses such as Five Guys, Wegmans, Samuel Adams and Paychex.

At the conclusion she’s listed key themes from The Art of War, and tied them back to actions the small business owners can take as they grow their companies. This is a reference book that readers will refer to over and over again, since these lessons are as timeless as Sun Tzu’s classic. (Received a review copy.)

Amazon Link:
The Art of War for Small Business: Defeat the Competition and Dominate the Market with the Masterful Strategies of Sun Tzu

How to Spend Less Time Struggling (and Make More Time for Joy)

2644050292_27c471f1e5_b“We find what we are searching for – or, if we don’t find it, we become it.” – Jessamyn West

Have you ever wondered if there’s something you “should” be doing with your life? Perhaps the job you’ve been in for years isn’t really what you want to be doing.

The career you were once so excited about is now going nowhere. The passion you once felt for your business has burned out and now you’re reluctant to try something new.

Some people have always known what they wanted to do. But I suspect most people have no idea what would make them happy. They’ve become used to not feeling anything at all, and go through their lives like sleepwalkers.

We can spend a lot of time struggling against the current because we believe that things have to be difficult. If they’re not difficult some people will create drama to make them that way. There’s a belief that overcoming obstacles earns you extra points, and it does have a way of teaching you things that can help you in life. But, struggle for the sake of struggle is not very instructive.

There has to be a point where you ask if perhaps you’re struggling because you’re doing the wrong thing.

If you’re looking for your purpose, consider what you enjoy doing. What comes easy for you? Chances are the things that are easiest for you are related to your purpose. Is there something that people always ask you to help them with? What brings you joy? Yes, I said joy. That feeling isn’t just for special occasions.

Unfortunately so many of us are content to spend most of our lives in compromise, settling for “almost good” or “better than nothing” because we don’t feel we deserve better.

Or we’re not sure what we really want because we’re not connected to our inner needs and desires. We turn off those whispers by working too much, drinking or engaging in other behavior that will cover up our feelings of dissatisfaction.

Your purpose is what you say it is. It’s what makes you come alive. For years I worked in the corporate world putting in long hours and planning my career. Then one day that career path went away as changes rocked the company and put our jobs in jeopardy. I had to think about making my own decisions and not letting them be made for me by default.

It took me a while to come to terms with what I wanted, years as a matter of fact. All I had to do was let go of the struggle and listen to what had always been calling me.

Deep down you know what you want, all you have to do is get quiet and listen.

Copyright © 2010 – 2015 Deborah A. Bailey

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From: Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.

Book Review: The Life Intended by Kristin Harmel

The Life IntendedThe Life Intended by Kristin Harmel

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

A very interesting story about a woman who begins to experience flashes of the life she might have had with her husband, who died years earlier. As the flashbacks continue, she’s led to a different type of life and meets various people who are leading her on a journey to self-discovery.

Kate Waithman switches back and forth between her real life with her fiance, Dan, to her “might have been” life with her dead husband Patrick. For me, as the story went on, I found myself much more interested in her dream life than in her real one. The connections between her and Patrick were so loving and I wondered how long it would take for her to wonder why she was making certain compromises in her real life.

Very richly detailed, especially when dealing with Kate’s experiences with music therapy and working with deaf children. Though I had an idea how things would turn out in her love life, the revelation at the end was unexpected. I enjoyed the story, while at the same time I felt that some things fell into place a bit too neatly. (Received a review copy.)

Amazon.com link: The Life Intended

Book Spotlight: “Graced with Orange” by Jamie C. Amelio

In her book, Graced with Orange, author Jamie C. Amelio shares a life-changing encounter that changes her life and leads her to found Caring for Cambodia (CFC).
 
It all began with a dollar. When Srelin, an eight-year-old Cambodian girl approached Jamie C. Amelio and asked for a dollar so she could afford to go to school, Amelio was skeptical. Was this just another beggar’s ruse?
Amelio was visiting Cambodia for the first time, and was shocked by the poverty. Entire villages lacked plumbing or electricity. And this child wanted a dollar for
school?  A doubtful Amelio told Srelin that if she would take her to visit the school, she would give her the dollar. What Amelio found at that school changed her life.
 
Read an excerpt:

“After lunch Samedi drove Virginia, Amanda, and me to Srelin’s school in the small village of Kravaan. A large, rusty wrought iron fence with yellow columns buttressing a swinging metal gate led to a complex of three buildings, one of which was a small, low-roofed, shack-like structure. Somehow Srelin knew I had arrived because out the door she came running up to us, exclaiming, “Oh, you’re here! You’re here!” like I was a favorite aunt she hadn’t seen in months.

I asked Srelin to show us her classroom, so she walked us back into the building, which up close we could see wasn’t much more than four walls and a ceiling. She opened the door to reveal what must have been seventy- five children of all ages crammed into a small room. They were sitting on benches under narrow tables, three to five kids to a table. The school was so crowded that children were literally sitting on top of one another. Every time a child stood the dust from the dirt floor billowed upwards. I had to force myself to stop thinking about the Peanuts character Pigpen, trailed by a cloud of dirt wherever he went.

Thousands of dust particles sparkled in the rays of sun that shone through the windows, unobstructed except for thick steel bars. I was told the bars were to prevent break-ins, although what someone might want to steal I couldn’t imagine. Even with the bars the building didn’t seem particularly secure. I wondered how children could learn in this jail-like setting and marveled at the irony that they had to pay for it.

The moment I walked into the room the children went completely silent, with all eyes on the three foreigners. I said hello and they bowed their heads, offering polite “Hellos” in return.

Looking around further, I realized there wasn’t a teacher in front of the class. “Where’s the teacher?” I asked Srelin.

“I don’t know if teacher come today. Sometimes don’t come.”

Remarkably, without supervision, the children just sat there, talking quietly, waiting for their teacher to arrive. Srelin explained that they would stay there all day because that’s what they had been told to do.

“Do you have any kind of workbooks to read or lesson plans to follow while the teacher is absent?” I asked Srelin.

She looked at me blankly, but the fact that she didn’t understand the question gave me my answer.

“Where are the school supplies?”

She pointed to the front desk, which had small pieces of broken pencils. “We get one pencil,” she told me. “We break it. We share it.”

The teacher never did show up that day. Virginia, Amanda, and I stayed a few hours, walking the grounds with the school principal. With Samedi as translator, I asked how I could help.

“What do you need the most?” I asked.

“Paper and pencils,” the principal told me. I kept asking him questions, and in return I received my first introduction to the Cambodian public education system. It wasn’t the last time I would learn that the bureaucracy was sorely inefficient and often corrupt. Teachers, I learned, were supposed to receive a salary from the Cambodian government. Sometimes they did, often they did not, and even when they did it only amounted to about $25 a month. That was not a livable wage, even in a country as poor as Cambodia, so the teachers asked the children to supplement their incomes.

By the time we returned to our hotel something in me had changed. My heart and head had been turned topsy-turvy in a single day. I couldn’t sleep that night. Perhaps I was naïve, but I couldn’t get my mind around the idea that I lived two hours away in a country with everything I could possibly need while a mere two hours away children were trying to learn in an environment like the one I had just seen. This was simply not okay with me. People could do better. People like me could do better.”

 

Jamie C. Amelio is the founder and CEO of Caring for Cambodia (CFC), a non-profit, non-governmental charitable organization which has dramatically changed the lives of more than 6,400 Cambodian children. CFC started in 2003 with the goal to provide Cambodian children education by building a school in the Siem Riep area. That initial goal of one school has grown into a mission to secure a better, brighter future for those children and so many more! CFC positively impacts not only the students but their families and the community.

The organization continues to build on the initial premise that every child deserves an education by supporting existing schools, building new ones in the same district and implementing teacher training along with identifying mentor teachers.

Jamie is a three-time recipient of the prestigious “Golden Hand Service Award” bestowed by the Cambodian government (2005, 2010, 2012) to those who give outstanding service to the Cambodian community. Known as “The Lawn Mower” because she never lets grass grow under her feet, Amelio was a dedicated volunteer with various organizations long before beginning the Caring for Cambodia project detailed in Graced with Orange. She and her husband, Bill, lived in Asia for a decade. They now make their home in Austin, Texas with their six children, including two from Cambodia, all of whom understand the importance of “Being Orange.”

 

Why You Have to Give Up Control to Get What You Really Want

16109219490_4807e36e40_b“Do your best until you know better. Then when you know better, you do better.” – Maya Angelou

Have you ever felt stuck in the same job situations, relationships or financial circumstances?

Do you feel like you’re going through the same things over and over?

When you live in the state of “what was” you’ll always repeat the same experiences.

How do you break free?

Be open to new things coming into your life. But don’t assume that you’ll have control over how they’ll come. Letting go of control is the hard part, though.

When you’re open the universe can work freely without being held back by your limited expectations.

Think about it. If you judge every new situation by what happened in the past, how can anything new enter your life? If it’s new and unfamiliar, there’s no past experience to base your expectations on.

Unfortunately, for some of us the unknown and unfamiliar must be bad. For some people anything foreign is instantly rejected. Not because it’s negative, but because if they can’t fit into their existing paradigm, they can’t deal with it. Or they react in fear or even anger.

Maybe you’re afraid that the new job, love interest or financial windfall is really too good for you. It’s so different than what you’ve had, so it must be a mistake. It can’t be real. So to protect yourself, you push it away. That way you won’t be hurt when it fails.

That’s how people sabotage relationships, job and business opportunities, financial wealth, weight loss–you name it. Instead of moving forward into something new, we hold on to the familiar patterns.

Even if the old habits don’t work, we keep doing them–all the while expecting a different result.

The person you are today is because of all the stuff you went through before. The good and the bad. Don’t beat yourself up about what you “should” have done. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time.

Create a vision of what you want, and don’t shut out the new and unfamiliar. Be willing to take a chance on something that you’ve never done before.

Learn from the past, but don’t stay stuck there.

Copyright © 2015 Deborah A. Bailey

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Based on a chapter from: Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.

Book Review: The Power of the Heart: Finding Your True Purpose in Life

The Power of the Heart: Finding Your True Purpose in LifeThe Power of the Heart: Finding Your True Purpose in Life by Baptist de Pape

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

This is not only a beautiful book visually, but the words, contemplations, interviews and quotes are just as beautiful. It shows how we can use the power we have within us-within our hearts-and expand it out into the world.

This is a book I will refer to when I’m looking for uplifting reading, or when I need to unwind from the stresses of the everyday world. Certainly a book that belongs on the shelf of anyone who follows and is enriched by spiritual topics. (Received a review copy.)

The Power of the Heart: Finding Your True Purpose in Life on Amazon.com.